Coffee is not the only thing I find in the morning.

It's funny how little things can mean a whole lot:  a cup of coffee; a memento, an act of kindness...

I was prepping to begin work this morning when I needed to fetch a cup of coffee... and then... I realized that I needed a coaster... I went hunting for one and found my stack.  Two were crocheted by a dear neighbor and friend that went to heaven long ago and one was constructed recently from a dear friend from Michigan.  Those items put the thought and this blog into my head.  It's such a gift of love to receive something from someone that was given with a big heart and given specifically to you.  The receiver feels the love.  

As I was making my way from the kitchen to my office, I noticed the trivet on my stove.  It's a bright and beautiful square that I received from a dear friend as she and her husband packed up and left our city many, many years ago - the trivet remains in my kitchen as does her love.

I arrive in my office, my yoga room, my respite and notice my small table and chairs that I've repainted over the years.  It was my grandmother's that my uncle built - it is mine now it and with ownership I revisit the memories of those that have sat on the chairs, laid work papers or treats on it's surface and provided love.

Ahhh... this morning is filled with friends and loved ones as I begin my work day

Oklahoma Strong, people helping people

Day 5 in Moore, OK. The rubble from the EF 5 tornado is evident as I drive around this city but the love of the people recovering from this horrific nightmare and the love of those who have descended upon this area to help is incredible! A young girl sits on a corner holding a sign offering a hug to those that need one. A sign for flat tire repair. A sign for work teams available. Those walking the neighborhoods handing out food and water. Signs on businesses that say Moore Strong, and We Are Open and God Bless Moore. And you know what, these folks... they've been hit in the heart but they've been infused with love... And this Texan has had the privilege of experiencing the spirit these Oklahomans call, "Oklahoma Strong"...

IT REALLY IS HARD TO SAY, "GOOD-BYE"

I was so noncommittal - purposefully so. I was not up for another relationship. I had given my love non-conditionally many times before and this time I was not going to do it. His soulful eyes beseeched me and all I could do was dive right into the deep blue pools begging me to caress him. "Not again," I thought. I WILL NOT GET ATTACHED TO ANOTHER ADOPTED ANIMAL, and so was the case I tried to uphold with Lil' Jerry.

Lil' Jerry is my son's New Zealand rabbit. My dear-one purchased him with the idea that he would earn ONE THOUSAND dollars at a breeders show in eight weeks. When I heard about THE DREAM - I immediately said, "No." I would not care for a rabbit, I would not feed a rabbit, and I didn't want a rabbit! Lil' Jerry moved in last week.

I had already lost myself to a small reptile several years ago. My youngest had received Clyde one Christmas from Santa. Clyde, a small spotted gecko, was not my idea of a warm, fuzzy pet; but my son really wanted him.

SCENE ONE… There was preparation of the aquarium, the purchase of a light, and the discipline of feeding time. I think my sweet; man-child thought this spiny creature would bring him a rather cave-man existence while developing a relationship with this cold-blooded animal. Well, it didn't happen. In fact the whole experience was awful.

My son gleefully fed the little dinosaur small chirping crickets, gave him water, and even helped clean his aquarium. He couldn't wait to teach him tricks, yet he teetered with apprehension and fear that had not been realized until Clyde hauled off and bit his finger. The cave-man retreated with club into his room, and from that point on Mom was chief caretaker for an itty-bitty gecko with slippery, spine-tickling skin, and eyes that almost were larger than his little body. I didn't ask for it, I didn't want it… but I felt responsible since I'm the one that told Santa that my child needed a gecko experience.

SCENE TWO… Clyde made himself at home in my son's room. My son took pleasure in watching him dine on insects, and sun on his small log placed directly beneath his sun lamp. Time passed. I performed the obligatory food, water and aquarium checks. And then… Clyde went on a food strike. He wasn't eating (not even the crickets), he was lethargic, he was not shedding his skin as expected and frankly, he was not his cheerful, reptile-self. I panicked. What if my son woke to find a cold, hard, gecko with his feet in the air? What if he had some weird disease? What kind of psychological damage could occur? I called a pet store and consulted with their reptile director. He suggested Clyde needed extra-virgin-olive oil rubbed on his body… twice a day… yeah, you know where this is going… I spent two weeks taking Clyde out of his aquarium… morning and night, slathering him with extra-virgin-olive oil in hopes that he would shed his skin and become a normal spotted gecko… No one else in my household would touch him; even my husband would walk by and shake his head. I became Clyde's personal masseuse. And I know this is going to sound pretty stupid, but I even became attached to the little sucker - how could I not, when day after day I felt like I may be his only hope for survival, and a successful life as a gecko. It meant something to me.

FINAL SCENE - Despite our morning and evening rituals of oil, Clyde didn't improve. I was desperate… I googled gecko, and fortunately there were topics beside Geico Insurance. I was able to contact a gecko ranch in California and through our correspondence discovered Clyde needed to see a reptile specialist! "Ch-Ching…" was my first thought. The second was… "My husband is going to kill me!" I finally found a nice veterinarian who did specialize in reptiles, and made an appointment. We headed to the doc. Now, I knew I had no money for a reptile visit, at least not the small fortune that I assumed this visit would cost, so… when we came face to face with the good doctor I looked him in the eye and without sounding totally noncompassionate I somberly said, "Doctor, I want to say upfront, I'm limited in how much I can spend on the patient." He looked into my eyes, and he understood. He told us, he would do what he could. They would put Clyde on an intravenous diet (picture a reptile hooked up to an IV) and give us a call on his progress.

We waited two weeks, and unfortunately I had to pull the plug - as the meds didn't work. BOY! DID I FEEL GUILTY! So guilty that I couldn't let Clyde's life be for naught. I wrote a children's story about him. He will always be remembered.

I held Lil' Jerry last night, his heart was racing as my son cleaned his feet with hydrogen peroxide (it's a show thing), and I stroked his body to calm him. The fear subsided, and I wondered if Lil' Jerry will remain apart of our lives or move on. It really is hard to say Good-Bye, isn't it?

To read the story inspired by Clyde, entitled the same, go to www.LauraLilleySmith.com and click on children's stories.

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